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December 7, 2016

Vizini, the giant and Inigo

Vizzini:                   He didn’t fall?! Inconceivable!
Inigo Montoya:     You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means.

The Princess Bride

We grow up swimming in words and are at any moment at risk of drowning in our own meaning.

Think of words like mother and father. Love and family. Discipline and respect. You and I both know those words. I know they have meaning for you but I do not know for certain what that meaning is.  Words like soon, today, adequate and acceptable are tossed into conversations with barely a thought that between your mouth and my ear their meaning is subject to change without notice or noticing.

A lack of words can make absent that which we do not wish to exist.

I heard a very successful CEO and member of many Boards attribute their success to growing up in a traditional Chinese Malaysian family where all the children were treated equally and subject to the same parental expectations. She was not any different to her brothers. No words were spoken that suggested to her that there was things she could not do or should not do.

Nor was the absence of those words spoken about. She went out into the world like an Empress in her new clothes.

Like the proverbial Emperor, she was surprised to hear the whispers suggesting that she wasn’t behaving the way she should behave. Didn’t she know that women don’t do those sort of things! Unlike the Emperor though, she didn’t begin to doubt herself because she had clothed her self in the certainty that comes from experience. She could and had achieved many things and she knew why and it had nothing to do with gender.

Research suggests that we cannot see something unless we have words that can describe it. Up until now I guess I had thought that would be something that created limits to what was possible in our lives.  Words have helped me to see their absence can sometimes mean those limits are never created which makes anything possible.

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